Being in a group home isn't always easy. Im going to tell you the two hardest things to do in a group home.You need to figure out who you can and cant trust. You also need to know what you can and can't do. If you don't figure it out, then you'll get into trouble.
Do: Try your hardest to succeed in the programming. The faster you succeed the sooner you'll be able to get out. For example, I've seen a girl who is still in the program and has been for eleven months. The reason for that is because she didn't try her hardest until she realized it was only keeping her in the group home longer.
Don't: Come to the group home thinking you can fake it and make it. Faking it will only cause you to stay in the group home longer. I know this because when i was in O&A I was faking it, so they sent me to a secure program called Artec South. And to be honest it wasn't worth it. I can tell you what, you do not want to be in the group home longer than you already have too.
Do: Find out who will stay by your side through thick and thin. You need to know who you can open up to and who you can't. If you open up to the wrong person then you can get into deep trouble. Like this weekend a girl got put on staff watch for telling the wrong person what she was doing.
Don't: Lie during therapy sessions. If you lie then you really won't succeed in the program. I use to lie during therapy which has caused me to stay in therapy for longer. If I would have just been honest I would be more successful and be done with therapy.
And finally Do: Internalize what you are being taught. Internalizing will help you change your ways. Internalizing is very helpful in your progress in the group home. If you internalize you'll be more susceptible to change. If you change you'll be able to go home sooner.
But for the love of everything holy Don't: Run. Running only causes you more trouble. For example you'll end up in detention, secure, or another program that is worse than the one you are already in. I ran from proctor home and got put in dentition. Now I'm in Haven Home For Girls, which is so much worse than being in Proctor care.
5 comments:
I think your best do is finding someone that will always be on your side no matter what. Once you find that person then it's easier to make it through the program. Having a real friend you can trust in the group home helps with pretty much everything :)
I like this blog because some of your do's and don't's are able to be used in other places. For example, I got in trouble in proctor care for opening up to to wrong person and they went and snitched on me. And I've been tempted to run before but I didn't because I thought about what would happen if I did which would be worse than where I'm at now.
I like your last dont about running. I' myself have never been in a program so I have never had to think about running but I have friends who have ran for programs. Yeah you may be free for a minutet but once you get cought you go right back to we're you came from most times you go some where worse. There's no point in running at all.
Being away from your family and feeling like your being watched underneath a microscope is one of the worst feelings in the world. I am sorry about the situation your in, but only you can change it. You are your own advocate. Do your stuff, and do good in school and make the people who are in control of you proud and give them what you want and when this is all over and done with, you'll be a very independent woman. I have been dealing with stuff like this since I was little and it's the worst. You'll get it together sooner or later, I have faith in you..
/Danyelle.
Being in a group can be easy if you make it easy, and hard if you make it hard. I was in a group home, and the biggest thing I think is don't lie. Everyone catches you when you lie. And don't make out with boys cause no only are. Oys stupid but they always find out. I think you have it down.
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