Let me tell you about the best keep secret about being in foster care. It's helpful. The two hardest things about foster care is 1. Simply being there and 2. Working on getting out.
I've collected over a period of time the do's and don't's of foster care.
Do: Cooperate with your foster parents. If you just sit there and defy them then you won't get anywhere. You'll keep getting in trouble and you'll be in foster care longer. I know that if I just kept doing drugs and just defied everyone then I would be in foster care for longer. I mean hope hard is it to just to cooperate with them every once in awhile. Take out the trash for Goodness sake.
Don't: try to manipulate your caseworker. Whatever you do don't sit there and try to be boss. They know what's in your best interest you may not see it but if they know what they're doing then I'm sure they see how you'd be in advantage to be somewhere and doing certain things would help you.
Do: Try to see the positive side of things. If you don't see the positive then you'll live your life in negativity, it won't be a very pleasant time in your house if you're not going to make the best of it. For example I was so negative when I first came into foster care and then I started to see the brighter side of things that everyone's not out to get me and things got happier.
Don't: get yourself wound up into a group home. Group homes are the worst experience you'll ever have in your life it's DT but without cells. If you've ever been to DT I'm sure that you don't want to end up back there and you sure don't want to be in a group home. You won't want to be watched every second of everyday.
And finally, Do: take advantage of the System and the perks. If you do this you'll be loving life you can basically leave foster care with almost 6k. Who would stupid enough not take advantage of that? I know that since I'm in TAL and if I take their classes and even WIA graduating high school and taken certain classes you get paid 700 dollars just for showing up. If you want to just be done with the system then fine but if you go on into independent living then you get paid 17.50 a day and equals into about 525 a month now if you are smart enough to get a job and put that money away when you leave foster care you'll have about 6,000 dollars in savings.
But for the love of everything holy Don't: Run. Running is probably the stupidest thing you can do. When you run you'll have a warrant on your head, maybe the cops will stop looking for you after you're 18, but the warrant will carry over and you won't be able to do anything with your life. I know when I ran it wound me up from being in a great foster home where everything is so laid back and chill to a level three foster home where you are basically have to earn privileges and you have to ask for basically everything but using the bathroom and get a drink of water.
3 comments:
I really like this Cydnee. I know how it is I really do so I see where you coming from. But hang in there girl you will be out soooon. I know your a strong girl just keep that head up of yours. Smile and do what you need to do and things will be over soon I love you my beautiful sisters Cydnee. :)
My favorite don't of yours is don't end up in a group home. It really sucks and it's the worse place you could get placed. If I would of known I was going to end up in a group home then I would of changed a long time ago.
Most of your rules are common scence. But even thoe they are that dosen't mean that people follow them. I mean I hardly corporate with my foster parents.So that just sais that they are good rules.
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