Let me tell you the best secret about being a teenage mom. It’s Hard. The two hardest things about it is. First that I'm young,kids are so expensive, I don't have the money because work don't pay enough. And second is that it's really hard because I come to school, go to work, do online packets and all that is so much and it does get overwhelming.
I don't mean for it to be a bad thing because having my son and having him in my life changed a lot of things in my life. Why? Because I was an addict to meth I didn't care who I hurt in my life all I knew in life was how to cope with was my drug to make me happy and get away from my problems and now that my son is in my life I am way happy, I know how to be happy without having to use the drug to feel good about my self, I have confidence and I want something in my life, I have goals now. When I'm older I want to go to cosmetic school for doing hair and makeup, before I had my beautiful son Bentley I always saw myself being a drug dealer, still in my Norte gang then I gave that life up and opened my eyes telling myself would I like it if my son was in a gang? Where I could loose him forever? Would i want him to be doing drugs? Where he would have no future life? No I want the best for my son so I stopped putting me first and started putting my son first.
Do: if your in my situation take a minute to open your eyes and see what is standing right there in front of your eyes. First: stop what your doing that could harm you like drugs, gang life, running, causing problems with the law. Second: learn to love and respect yourself because that could be very helpful to you in your life now and in the future.
Don't: don't go back to the same stuff your doing if your not committed in changing then don't no one is stopping you from doing whatever it is that you want to do. But one thing don't tell your family and friends that you are changing because what if you don't. Tell them when you have actually changed your life around and have thought about things.
Do: just think about who you are hurting in your life and think do I want to loose my loved ones or do I want them to be here for me when I need the help well I'm not saying that if you do things your not suppose to they will not help because I don't know that but don't risk it and look for the bright light and go that way and do good things for your life.
Don't: one thing is don't take my advice if you don't plan on using it because I honestly am saying all this stuff for the people that are going though the kinda same thing as me and are actually committed in changing their life's around and trying to be good in life now instead of making bad mistakes because I know how hard it would be because I have been through a lot but I'm still standing here staying strong and believing in myself and I have been through probably more then who ever is reading this and I'm hanging in there just keep smiling and moving on in life.
And finally, Do: take the time to do some of the things I've told you because they will be helpful in your life trust me. Because I have done them and it has changed me not just for me and my family but for my son and my future I want him to live and myself.
But for the love of everything Don't: buy into peer pressure you just keep doing you and you only don't be letting people be putting you down you just keep smiling and think who you are doing this for just remember yourself.
5 comments:
Anjie I love your essay I have tons of respect, sympathy, and admiration for what you have gone through and how you were able to look past all the negative and work hard to gain something more positive for yourself and your son. Great job
Word to your mother! You inspire me to be a great mother when I grow up. When I read this you remind me of my cousin who had her baby as a teenager too. It's crazy that things happen so quick and kids grow in a blink of an eye. It must be hard sometimes but remember the struggles are real.
I like this a lot Anjie. Even though it is hard at times, I bet your son makes it all worth it. This kinda reminds me of my mom, she had me when she was barley 16 and was in the same position as you with drugs and gangs. But I'm glad you made it work out and figured out what's more important to you.
Your essay is so solid Anjie. You clearly have gone through so much in life and it's respectable. It's nice to know there is someone else who's gone through some of the same things as I have, and is not only wanting to do better, but is doing something about it. Anyone can want a better life, but in my opinion, it takes a really strong person to do something about it and literally work for it. Lately, I've been pushing through some personal struggles in my life that have been getting me down and on the real Anjie, your essay helped me figure some of my own issues out. By the way, thanks for talking me out of running, I guess I just needed a more mature perspective on things, I appreciate it.
Dude. Marry me? Not! I like this Angie. You always keep it real, even in the unrealistic part of times. Your a very strong courageous woman, and your cool. I'm happy for you, but I'm even happier for your son, he's gonna have a pretty cool mom when he gets older. (:
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