Top 3 Questions You Should Not Ask Fat People...
Though I am not fat anymore I used to be, it hurt my feelings the way others would ask those hurtful and disrespectful questions and judge me so quickly just by my body shape. When I was fat I was unable to talk about the problem because of other reactions verbally and physically it made me unsure if I could improve my figure.
Just be aware of people's overweight physical appearance and others boundaries and how your words and physical expressions affect others around you. These questions are just what I could think of at the moment, yet think about other questions that you or your friends have might of asked a fat person in the past and how that effected the victims state of mind.
Whither you know it or not, saying things that are pushing peoples boundaries is making you violate that persons mental privacy I suggest you watch your actions and and words used towards others.
Do you eat a lot? When you ask this question it's disrespectful, the reason is there could be many ways a person takes offense, because of that persons genetics or that maybe that person has a food addiction. I had neither when I was fat I was just lazy, even though I didn't have those problems I was just lazy the question still bothered me.
How fast can you run? That question is offensive because the victim (fat person) obviously isn't that athletic and probably doesn't run fast if that person can most likely for a short time then would lose his/her energy supply. That question was irritating, it made me feel that I wasn't excepted because I couldn't be as athletic as those around me.
Why are you fat? The question crosses that persons boundaries because the feeling of having to explained why you aren't as healthy or slim as others around you, it's a horrible feeling no one with weight problems would react to the question positively because it's very disrespectful. When I was asked that question it made me feel like I was so unproductive and overwhelmed with sad and uncomfortable emotion it was hard to answer because the truth hurts. Yet no matter what the reason someone is fat the person asking shouldn't be pushing that persons boundaries mentally.
In conclusion you should never ask those three following question because the questions are disrespectful to those whom are fat. Also the fat people are are depressed because of the weight that person has. I know fat people should lose weight but let that persons doctor say that not you. I mean whom are you to judge that person so severely, only god can judge correctly if he is real or not I don't know, even then it is not your place to judge other with personal problems. Try to understand others perspective of them selfs and how they want to be treated, also think how you would like robe treated and unite those thoughts into your own state of mind and treat others with a positive attitude, because if that was you in that situation you would want to be treated with the same respect you give others.
6 comments:
I think you should've asked this question " How much food can you fit in your mouth"? I think this question shouldnt be asked to a big person because they will get offended and think that you are calling them a mean name. A fat person might might think that just because there big doesn't mean the can eat a lot. Most big people can't even eat a lot.
True that, thanks for the advice I should've wrote more but I was lazy...ha I guess I should put more effort in my work..
I think this is an amazing blog! I hope it opens up people's eyes. We are all human beings and whether we're fat, skinny, or whatever, we shouldn't be so judgemental against people, and I think that's the thing we do most, we don't treat people like people, we treat them like objects. It's so disrespectful. I understand that it is in our human nature, and it just comes naturally, but we have the power and self control to keep those things to ourselves. I feel like more people should be empathetic, because what if that was you. We all have our flaws and problems and we know them. We don't need other people pointing them out for us.
I loved this. These questions are so disrespectful and can be really hurtful to people. Good job I'm proud of you.
This was a very informative. This gives a lot of info on how overweight people feel about questions that hurt. Someone will surely benefit from this and hopefully be feeling better about their weight after reading great job.
I loved this essay! it really bugs me when others think they have the right to ask bigger people these questions. when They do this it doesn't make them look like a better person, in fact in makes them look way worse. just lay of, because you don't know what this person may be going through.
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