Let me explain to you about the worst kept secret about getting married. The two easiest things I've experienced while being married are 1. Getting along with my husband. We have our ups and downs but we are never on the verge of killing each other anymore. 2. Learning to care not only about myself, but also about my spouse and his needs.
A lot of people have asked me why I have gotten married at such a young age, and they have tried to dictate my thoughts on teenage marriage, but I'm happy with my husband and I have matured very fast and it was the right thing for me to do, which is why I'm not ashamed of my decision on getting married at 17 years old.
I've collected a brief list of do's and don'ts about getting married at a young age.
DO: learn to act like a mature adult, and don't do stupid things that you will regret. You don't want to get married more than once, so work hard and do it right the first time.
DON'T: don't act like you guys have to put leashes on one another. Have trust in each other, otherwise the marriage will never work out, and you'll just set yourself up to fail and you'll want to go out searching for someone else to be with.
DO: get to know the other person very well before you decide to marry them. If you marry someone without knowing them as much as you know yourself then they're is a very high divorce rate. The statistics aren't always true though. Some people get married after knowing each other for just a week and they live happily ever after. All in all, marriage is what you make of it. In my opinion, age has nothing to do with love or decisions.
DONT: don't believe what everyone else tells you. If you and your boyfriend/girlfriend are comfortable in your decisions, then do what your heart desires. Don't just act on an impulse and do something stupid, actually think about the decision before you make it.
And finally DO: love each other and don't lie to each other. Be nice to one another and get along. Your marriage will be a living hell if you guys can't get along and agree on things and it'll just be a bad divorce in the making.
And for the LOVE of everything holy, DON'T: be promiscuous and sleep around with other people. Stay faithful and don't make a bad name for yourself and your marriage. People will talk and it will get back to your husband/wife. Stay faithful!! If you aren't going to be with that person only then you shouldn't have gotten married. Bamm.
It is said that you were meant only for one person and that person was meant for you. Im not telling to date someone and then marry them after a week, go out and have fun and find out what you want before you make any harsh decisions. When I got married, it was the best thing that I could've done at that point in my life. It has helped me so much and my husband means the world to me. We're not making any quick decisions and were not going to risk anything that will cause us to divorce. We've only been married since June 17, 2013, and we were dating for a long time before that. I made sure I knew what I wanted before I acted impulsively. We both felt like it was the right thing for us to do. I'm almost 18 years old and I'm happy with the decision I made.
3 comments:
I feel like young marriage is a hard topic for people too conceptualize. That fact that a younger person can and may be more mature then another is hard for some to grasp. I feel the biggest point you made is knowing yourself you must k ow yourself before you can decide what you want!!!
I can't say that I know from experience, but I have seen a lot of my family members get married young. They get along until they started being unfaithful to each other. My favorite don't was the one about being promiscuous. My cousin started cheating on her husband and he found out so he started cheating on her. It caused a ton of hate in the family. They are now married and have a two year old son. Their son means everything to them but they still fight a whole bunch. I hope when I decide to marry that I know it's the person I want to be with for the rest of my life.
I like this. But! There are a few things that I would disagree with. Like the age thing, age does matter, just ask the people who are on the sex offender list. YOU may not have a problem with it, but I on the other hand have a problem with seeing a 16 year old girl with a 25 year old dude. Sure you want a mature man, but not all guys are the same. Trust me, about 90% of the dudes are, but 10% are good guys. Believe me, I know. I'm part of the 10%. (:
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