We were fighting inside his car on a Tuesday night. "If your gonna keep messing up it's over. I'm not gonna stick around this again. Either you stop & stay with me or keep smoking & break up with me." I was surprise that those words were actually being said by me. I thought I loved him, like I claim to. Yet I was trying to call it off while I was telling myself "stop, what are you doing? You've been with him way to long, helped him once with this already. Why are you trying to call it off now?"
Ignoring the situation was my favorite mistake. I've been with him since I was in 8th grade till now with only one break up. My first in everything. The guy I hate & love with a passion. Been by each others sides since day one. But we all have issues, not only upon us but at home. He had to drop out of college 'cause his parents went through a divorce & his life stared to be all about bills & becoming the man of the house. Taking care of 4 girls & himself. With time stress stared building up.
He got in a bad habit of smoking, constantly. Things got out of control that I called our relationship off I had told him that I couldn't deal with more then what I already had on my plate & not knowing why I left him, why? I told myself this is when he needs me the most. After a couple of days later I found out he was doing worse so I had to get a hold of him. As he held me in his arms, asking me for forgiveness with his eyes full of tears & pain. I look at him straight in his eyes and told him "I'm sorry babe, it won't happen again. I promise to stay by your side through the thick & thin, I love you." Been with him since.
I learned that leaving someone's side when they need you the most is probably the worst thing to do, especially someone you love, someone who counts on you. There's always gonna be that feeling that you wanna leave them because of there mistakes but if you think about it we all live by mistakes & learn from them. I know I do, and till this day I make mistakes not as bad as they used to be but things I could of done better.
Me & my boyfriend are doing great now. He's been clean for a couple of months now & check this out... He's the one helping me now. I'm the one that's in the situation, foster care. Telling myself "This is it of us, it's coming to an end." But little did I know that he decided to stay by my side & I can seriously say he's been a huge help. So after being together for 3 years & 5 months he gave me a beautiful promise ring that I lost at a party haha yeah he was really upset. My favorite mistake.
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Ignoring the fact that he smokes is a good thing. You will learn if you ignore some things about people then you will have better relationships. I feel that if you keep ignoring his minor mistakes and continue to help him you will have a good relationship and it will last long.
To start it off,vi can not believe you lost the promise ring! I mean I have no room to talk, I crushed up my promise ring with a hammer. All because my boy was flirting with other girls. See, I'm really insecure so I couldn't handle the thought of him finding someone better than me. It was a huge mistake but we aren't together anymore because of me being in the system. I miss him every minute of everyday. No one will ever compare to him! Congrats on you and your man though, I'm proud of you!
Aww cherry, how cute haha.
Its good that you realized you shouldnt leave. It sucks when you really need somebody and they just leave you when times get hard, it really sucks. So I'm glad you decided to stay because he needed you. I'm sure that means a lot to him.
There are some thing that you can and can't learn from. It's a good thing you learned from this. Some people can't learn from thing like loosing a promise ring. I remember when I lost my ex's engagement ring that he bought me and he was livid. But then I learned to keep it around my neck at all times and I never lost it again.
Haha right! I felt bad after I lost it, didn't know how to tell him. Especially that it wasn't just a promise ring, looked more like an engagement ring haha but oh well he can always buy me a new one hahaha just kidding! Ha but yeah I'm still with him & will continue to till he gives me a good reason to leave him because I'm not the type to settle for less. I deserve the best ha. But other then that we got each other back & help each other in what we can.
Cherry! Your a very great girl. I wish most girls out there had your mindset. I was in your boyfriends position once, and unlike oyu, my girlfriend left me to rot away in the drugs and alcohol. That's why I never date again, I've seen the dark sde of the woman, and believe me it's not good. Don't do drugs and stay in school.
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